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The Law of Authenticity
Scripture: Matthew 5:14-16; James 2:14-17; Romans 1...
Track 4 of 5 in the The Go-Givers series
Running time: 58 minutes, 50 seconds.
Too many Christians today are fake, we try to be people we really arent. As long as you try to be someone else, putting on some act or behavior someone else taught you, you have no possibility of truly reaching people. The most valuable thing you have to give people is yourself. Do you want great people skills, then be a person! This is worth 10,000 times the techniques we think we have to have in order to influence people for Jesus. We call this authenticity.

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Mike Nobis Speaker: Mike Nobis
Sunday School Teacher, Former Elder at Madison Park Christian Church. Mike is President of JK Creative Printers & Mailing in Quincy, IL. He is married to Pam and has three children, Tom, Tyler and Jennifer. Mike has three grandchildren: Ryne, Ivy and Alicia.

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The Law of Authenticity

So what was it like for you? What was it like this week when you tried out the third law in becoming a Go-Giver and put someone’s interest before your own?

The real reason I asked is because when a person gets to the point when they start to concentrate on putting the interests of others first, especially those we don’t know very well, something changes. I was hoping someone intentionally went out to do this because I wanted them to explain the change they felt. Can someone share the change they experienced?

That is what the Law of Influence is all about; making sure the interests of others is your #1 interest. It doesn’t mean your interest goes neglected, it just means you don’t concentrate on yours, that is the job of someone else, another Go-Giver.

Let’s review the Law of Influence:

Your influence is determined by
How abundantly you place
Other people’s interest first.

This is not a law for you to pick out one person and concentrate on their particular interests; it is about becoming a person who looks at others and wonders what needs they have so you can meet them. It’s about showing them you really care for them without actually saying it.

How can we do this? How can you let someone you know, without speaking that you care for them?

Putting other people’s interests first creates influence. Jesus had tremendous influence, not because he was rich, powerful, had position, or that He was the Messiah; he had influence because of how He met the needs of others. That is where true influence comes from. There was something magnetic about Jesus. I doubt it was his speaking ability, his looks, his family status or the friends he hung around with. Jesus attracted people because he was willing to give them what they needed the most.

He knew what to give them because he was totally interested in them. He wasn’t concerned for his own interests but he was totally focused on what they needed and meeting their needs. He gave them everything and that kind of lifestyle is attractive. Givers attract. Once we as a church become Go-Givers, we will attract all sorts of people to the Gospel.

The church, if it expects to rouse from sluggishness, must know why it exists and what God expects it to accomplish. Calvin C. Ratz

I thought a lot about this simple statement, what does God expect me to accomplish? What can I accomplish, and do my accomplishments fall within the expectations of God for my life? I have to admit, it is an awesome thing to ponder God personally expecting me to accomplish something considering He is a being who can do anything He wants. When I looked into scripture concerning that question, I found a consistent message; influence someone to accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior. It was the word “influence” that stuck out in that statement.

Matthew 5:14-16 You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven. The Law of Influence

Half-heartedness and mediocrity don't inspire anybody to do anything. Adrian Rogers

James 2:14-17 What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save him? Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to him, “Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.

Unfortunately, most churches are dead. It is not due to their worship services, to the type of music they offer, it is not because they don’t have a dynamic preacher, they are dead because they aren’t attractive. There is nothing magnetic about them. They don’t expect anything nor do they seek to accomplish anything. They only exist, nothing more. They don’t give. Givers attract.

If this class wants to grow, then give. If you personally want to experience joy beyond your wildest imagination, then give. If you want to have influence to lead others to Christ, then give without concern for your own interests. If you decide to be a Go-Giver, you better get your Bible ready because you are going to have more opportunity to share Jesus to someone than you ever had before. Why, givers attract. Givers have a magnetic influence. Abundantly place other people’s needs first and you will have influence to win more people than you ever thought possible.

Those of you in this class who have been married at least 40 years or more, can you honestly tell us the reason you stayed together so long?

Most will say that they cared more for their spouse’s happiness than they did their own. What is truly remarkable, in those situations, the spouse felt the same way. Some might call that codependent. I personally think it is a definition for “Happily Married”. It is also called, “networking”; building your personal army of walking ambassadors. These are the people who are personally invested in seeing you succeed. The reason they are invested to see you succeed is because you are just as invested in seeing them succeed.

Has life ever handed you a sack load of pain and despair? When life handed you that sack and you opened it, what did that pain and despair look like? How black was it? Did it try to suck the very life out of you?

When life hands us these types of sack, and in many instances, life hands you multiples at one time, how easy it is to just throw it away? In reality, it can be hard to get away from the sacks life has handed you. It just seems they hang around a long time.

Many in this class have received sacks just like this one. Some of you still have sacks plaguing you and haunting your every move. You hurt and the despair seems to linger for a real long time.

Then there are the presents in life. I don’t know about you but when I get a present, I want to open it up right away. It is hard for me to wait for presents especially when I see them. I think putting presents under the Christmas tree is a form of torture. Waiting for presents you can visually see is hard to do. The temptations to sneak a peak loom large.

Have you ever received a present from someone that you forgot to open and find many days or weeks later? Often when this happens, we are alone when we come across the missing box of joy. What goes through your mind as you open the gift? Is the excitement just as real then as it might have been the day you received it? Why?

Life gives us presents that remain unopened for long periods of time. They remain unopened because we aren’t paying attention or we just don’t realize the precious worth of what we have in our possession. Sometimes these gifts come wrapped looking like sacks.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who feel they don’t have anything to give. It isn’t that they don’t want to give; they just feel they don’t have anything to give of value. What does a person give when they have nothing to give at all? Is it fair that they are left out in being a Go-Giver?

I have personally learned that in my life as a salesman, the most important thing I must sell is me. I want everyone to know and understand this one important fact, no matter what your training is, no matter what your skills are, if you want to be successful in winning others to Christ, the most important person you have to sell is yourself. The best gift you have to offer people is yourself.

Reaching any goal you set out to do is 10% knowledge and skill, the other 90% is people skills. You want to influence people for Jesus, 10% of that requires your Bible skills. 90% requires how you handle people. And what is the foundation to people skills? Liking people? Being a good listener? Caring about people? Those are all helpful, but they are not the core of it. The core of it is who you are. It starts with you.

Too many Christians today are fake, we try to be people we really aren’t. As long as you try to be someone else, putting on some act or behavior someone else taught you, you have no possibility of truly reaching people. The most valuable thing you have to give people is yourself.

Do you want great people skills, then be a person! This is worth 10,000 times the techniques we thinkwe have to have in order to influence people for Jesus. We call this authenticity. All this leads to the 4th law to being a Go-Giver, The Law of Authenticity

The most valuable gift you have to offer
Is yourself

This concept is all over the Gospels. The first church knew all too well how this worked. The concept can be summed up in the phrase, “One Another”. There are several references to “one another” actions, each one designed to offer just you in the service to others around you. In fact, over 75 times in the New Testament the phrase ”one another” is used to describe the service we are to have with believers and the world.

Romans 12:9-13 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.

Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

True or false: It is so much easier to tell a person what to do with his problem than to stand with him in pain. Why is that?

Are you a person, when someone looks at you, they see the real you or are you a person who likes to wear masks? Are you the type of person who tries to be someone your not? How does that attitude hinder service to others?

Luke 5:27-32 After this, Jesus went out and saw a tax collector by the name of Levi sitting at his tax booth. “Follow me,” Jesus said to him, and Levi got up, left everything and followed him. Then Levi held a great banquet for Jesus at his house, and a large crowd of tax collectors and others were eating with them. But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law who belonged to their sect complained to his disciples, “Why do you eat and drink with tax collectors and ‘sinners’?” Jesus answered them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”

What was the point in Jesus going to Levi’s house? Why would Jesus agree to associate with such people? What did Jesus have in common with them? If we are to have influence with the lost around us, what must we do as a class to show others that we are real? How do we give our best gift to them, us? What affect do you think this will have on the lost?