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The Law of Influence
Scripture: 2 Corinthians 9:10-11; Galatians 6:7-10;...
Track 3 of 5 in the The Go-Givers series
Running time: 54 minutes, 22 seconds.
Too many people look for situations that are win-win. If I win, you winwe both win. That is the concept of a Go-Getter. The concept of a Go-Giver is different, it is all about winning but it comes from the opposite direction. Make your win all about the other person. Go after what he wants. Forget about the win-win concept, focus on the other persons win.

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Mike Nobis Speaker: Mike Nobis
Sunday School Teacher, Former Elder at Madison Park Christian Church. Mike is President of JK Creative Printers & Mailing in Quincy, IL. He is married to Pam and has three children, Tom, Tyler and Jennifer. Mike has three grandchildren: Ryne, Ivy and Alicia.

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The Law of Influence

Over the past two weeks we learned two very important laws that I feel are super important when it comes to becoming a person who will be by nature a servant to others or a person wanting to be served. Service to others is the distinct mark of a believer in Christ. A person can’t call himself a true follower of Jesus and always focus on being served by others. Jesus wasn’t that way and his followers aren’t that way either.

The Gospels are a testimony to how a real servant acts and lives. Every act of Jesus was meant to serve someone else. He first looked to serve the Father in a way that gave the Father great glory. He always looked to help and serve anyone who needed it. His own personal needs were last. Jesus did not live a life in personal want, His needs were taken care of by others but His focus was always on those around Him. The very nature of Jesus made Him joyful to serve others and to tend to other’s needs.

The first two laws are hard to totally understand. In fact, they are hard to comprehend until an individual actually starts to apply the principles. To apply the first two laws, a person first has to be someone who has sold out to the life Jesus called them to, to be a disciple. A disciple of Jesus is someone who first denies his self ambitions and wants, daily puts away the life of seeking sin and follows the life examples laid down by Jesus as described in Scripture. Only when a person has truly denied the self and put away his own ambitions will he ever have a chance to truly experience the joys from the first two laws.

Let’s quickly review what the first two laws are all about in living the life of a Go-Giver.

First Law: The Law of Value

“Your true worth is determined
by how much more you give in value
than you take in payment”

Jesus’ lesson to his disciples is not to concentrate on what they can get, but on how much value they can give as they serve. Service to others is the focus of a disciple of Jesus but the true worth of that service is the value given. The value given should be greater than anything received in return. That kind of giving is worth a lot and is very attractive. The wealth that builds from that kind of giving is unexplainable.

Second Law: The Law of Compensation

“What you receive is determined
by how many people you serve
and how well you serve them”

To put it another way, what you receive back is proportional to how many lives you touch.

How many of you the past few weeks had some success in applying these laws to others around you? Does anyone want to share their experiences?

In my first lesson I mentioned to you that there are people who just love serving others. I do believe that is a gift from God to have the heart in being a servant. They are in their natural setting to make sure others are taken care of first. Not all of us have that natural gift but over time, the Holy Spirit can and will mold us in such a way so we become more like Jesus in his attitude of service to others. I do believe though that once a person becomes a disciple of Jesus, they are confronted quickly by the examples of Jesus to serve.

We live in a society today that is so different than the one Jesus lived in. In fact, most of the societies in the world today are very different than ours. We are a people that are driven to be successful in all the things we attempt to do. In addition to that, we have this drive to be the best. Being the best, being #1, having a winning team, etc., these are the unique things about our society today Bt with that attitude comes negative problems; often we find ourselves losing out on the things that are important in life and one of those things is service to others.

I think Jesus demonstrates in the Gospels three basic attitudes in all he did as he lived on this earth. They can be summed up in three words. I believe these are the three universal reasons for working. We too should practice these:

Survive, Save, Serve

Survive: To meet you basic living needs
Save: To go beyond your basic needs and expand your life
Serve: To make a contribution to the world around you.

2 Corinthians 9:10-11 Now he who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will also supply and increase your store of seed and will enlarge the harvest of your righteousness. You will be made rich in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.

Everything we have and do in this life should all be focused on how and what I can do to help others. What can I give to someone else in need? Once I have that mindset, once I have put into practice the law of value and the law of compensation, then I will see and experience the 3rd Law.

Someone explain to me the concept of networking? What is a network? What is a people network? How does it work? How important is a network? What are the benefits? How do you start a network? Are there any examples of people networks?

Networking is used for many different things and in many different ways. One simple form of networking is your address book that you use for email. These are all the people you know who are in some way important to you. They have some connection to you be it business, family, friends, or other connection. In reality, they are the ones you get things from in many ways. They are an asset to you; they are the people you use in some fashion. In my life I have many networks I use to accomplish the things I want to get done. In many ways it is through my networks I attempt to achieve success.

What does it mean to have connections? “I’ll use my connections to …”
Is this a good thing or a bad thing?

I want you to think about networking a little differently. The network I am talking about is the people who know you, like you, trust you. They might never buy a thing from you but they always have you in the back of their minds. These are the people who are personally invested in seeing you succeed. The reason they are invested to see you succeed is because you are just as invested in seeing them succeed. This network is your personal army of walking ambassadors.

Now here come the big questions, why do I need personal ambassadors? For what purpose do I need a network of walking ambassadors?

The answer is very simple, to survive, to save and to serve. Unfortunately, we develop networks of people to help us just to survive in life. Sometimes we might even develop a group of people who will help us save. But very seldom, I would bet that in almost all cases do we ever develop a network to help us become people who are dedicated to serving others.

Do you want to know why? Because most Christians are Go-Getters. They spend most of their lives and their Christian walk Go-Getting. It is all about me, it is my life, my wants, my happiness, my preferences, and when things don’t go the way I want or expect, life if tough, hard and I become unhappy, there is no joy.

What is the difference between Survive and Save and the concept of Survive, Save and Serve? What happens to the first two when “serve” is added? How do we make one of these networks happen?

Stop Keeping Score!

Galatians 6:7-10 (NIV) Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.

What happens when someone does something nice for you? What normally is your response?

For many, they show their gratitude by giving something nice back. In many situations, doing something nice for someone causes an act of kindness in return. If a person wants two acts of kindness to happen, one can assume 2 acts of kindness need to go out first. But what is really cool, what happens if two acts of kindness get returned by giving the acts to two different people (the concept of “passing it on”). Then the affects of kindness have multiplied.

But too many people keep score. Their concept of giving is, I’ll give when someone first gives to me, maybe. Not so with a Go-Giver. The thrill for a Go-Giver is to see how many acts of kindness can start a chain reaction of giving all around them. No score is kept so they aren’t focused on what they receive in return. Go-Giver’s survive and save to fuel their serving. A friend is not a friend when they expect something in return, that just makes them a creditor.

All of this leads to the Law of Influence

Your influence is determined by
How abundantly you place
Other people’s interest first.

Or put it another way, watch out for the other person. Watch out for their interests. Watch their back. Don’t let them fail, invest in their success. Too many people look for situations that are win-win. If I win, you win…we both win. That is the concept of a Go-Getter. The concept of a Go-Giver is different, it is all about winning but it comes from the opposite direction. Make your win all about the other person. Go after what he wants. Forget about the win-win concept, focus on the other person’s win.

Can anyone tell me what Enlightened Self-Interest is? Is it Biblical?

Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV) Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

2 Corinthians 8:13-14 Our desire is not that others might be relieved while you are hard pressed, but that there might be equality. At the present time your plenty will supply what they need, so that in turn their plenty will supply what you need. Then there will be equality.

A simpler version is this, If you place the other person’s interest first, your interests will always be taken care of. Watch out for what other people need, with the faith that when you do, you’ll get what you need.

If you ask people in the world what creates influence, what would they say? Money, position, outstanding accomplishments or success, power, important friends.

Most people when they think about influence get it backwards. Those things don’t create influence, influence creates them. But what in reality creates influence?

Putting other people’s interests first creates influence. Jesus had tremendous influence, not because he was rich, powerful, had position, or that He was the Messiah; he had influence because of how He met the needs of others. That is where true influence comes from. There was something magnetic about Jesus. I doubt it was his speaking ability, his looks, his family status or the friends he hung around with. Jesus attracted people because he was willing to give them what they needed the most.

He knew what to give them because he was totally interested in them. He wasn’t concerned for his own interests but he was totally focused on what they needed and meeting the needs. He gave them everything and that kind of lifestyle is attractive. Givers attract. Once we as a church become Go-Givers, we will attract all sorts of people to the Gospel.