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New King, New Throne, Same Lord
Scripture: Psalms 78:70-72; 2 Samuel 2:1; 2 Samuel ...
Track 10 of 19 in the David: A Man After God's Heart series
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Mike Nobis Speaker: Mike Nobis
Sunday School Teacher, Former Elder at Madison Park Christian Church. Mike is President of JK Creative Printers & Mailing in Quincy, IL. He is married to Pam and has three children, Tom, Tyler and Jennifer. Mike has three grandchildren: Ryne, Ivy and Alicia.

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For the next three week, I want to focus on family responsibilities and the problems that can arise if we follow the example of David. David was a great leader for Israel. In our studies of David, he showed tremendous character when dealing with Saul and Saulís aggressive pursuit of David. All through those years David was patient, David relied on God and even when he made some dangerous mistakes, he always went back to God for help and restoration. Davidís popularity rose as Saulís declined.

As was the case with many of the great leaders in scriptures, David failed as a dad. All throughout the Bible we meet several characters who played big parts in Godís will but neglected the raising of their kids. This mistake every time caused serious problems for our Biblical heroes and made their lives difficult and in some cases, tragic.

We will pick up our study of David right after Saul was killed in the battle at Mt. Gilboa. This battle didnít have to happen. The events leading up to this battle were all due to the disobedience of Saul. Unfortunately, not only did Saul lose his life but many Hebrew soldiers including Saulís sons. The one we must note was the death of Jonathan. Jonathan was Davidís best friend and he died by the hands of the Philistines right before Saul took his life by falling on his own sword.

I guess the best place to start is to look at a passage of scripture that tells us in general the life of David.

Psalms 78:70-72 He chose David his servant and took him from the sheep pens; from tending the sheep he brought him to be the shepherd of his people Jacob, of Israel his inheritance. And David shepherded them with integrity of heart; with skillful hands he led them.

David lived to be 70 years old and you can find all 70 years wrapped up in these verses. God chose David to be king at about the age of 17. It was at this age that David fought Goliath. After that battle, David becomes a servant of Saul and serves for him as a musician and as a commander in Saulís army. But it wasnít long before Saul considered David a threat and began to aggressively pursue David to kill him. From an early age until he was 30, Saul chased David all over attempting to take his life.

For the first 50 years of his life, David walked in the integrity of his heart. There were however a few temporary problems with the flesh, most of Davidís young adult life were years of triumph. Then came the last 20 years of Davidís life that was a downhill slide until he died as a broken man with a broken heart.

There is so much more than chronology in a personís life. The scriptures read that David was thirty years old when David became king and he reigned 40 years. It is too easy to look at this and forget what led to David becoming king of Israel. What were some of the key moments that led to David becoming king?

Were there more good times than bad times? How did the bad times affect his path to becoming king? Were they for his good or his demise? What did he learn from them? What about us when we go though tough times?

Now that Saul is dead, David can now finally become the king God anointed him to be. At the age of 30, he becomes the 2nd king of Israel.

If you were in Davidís place, after waiting all that time until an evil king was finally dead by the hand of God, what style of coronation would you plan? How would you do it and what would be your style?

When we look into scripture, we find that David didnít storm up to the throne and demand that everyone submit to his authority. David was a sensitive man and he got where he was by leading others and rallying others around him. Not everyone knew he was anointed as king and then there were those who were not going to be all that happy with him as king.

There were problems he had to overcome and there definitely were obstacles to him becoming the next king. What do you think some of the problems were he had to face and deal with? Here is something I want you to consider about yourself: Are you better at handling affliction than you are at handling promotions? A Scottish essayist and historian said it this way:

But for one man who can stand prosperity, there are a hundred that will stand adversity
Thomas Carlyle

What do you think; is he right or is he wrong? What do you think his point is?

David was a facing prosperity and success. The old king is now dead, by his own hand. For most opportunist, this would be the time to move, the time to claim with power and authority the throne that God planned for him. But that is not how David thought or operated. After he heard the news about Saulís death, he did the followingÖbefore we read, what would you do in this spot?

2 Samuel 2:1 In the course of time, David inquired of the LORD. ďShall I go up to one of the towns of Judah?Ē he asked. The LORD said, ďGo up.Ē David asked, ďWhere shall I go?Ē ďTo Hebron,Ē the LORD answered. So David went up there with his two wives, Ahinoam of Jezreel and Abigail, the widow of Nabal of Carmel. David also took the men who were with him, each with his family, and they settled in Hebron and its towns. Then the men of Judah came to Hebron and there they anointed David king over the house of Judah.

When facing difficult decision or big decisions about your life, do you inquire of God what direction he wants you to go or do you decide for yourself? Do you pray to God about what you would like to do or do you ask God for his will in your life no matter what?

This is what David did. He didnít want to make any move without Godís direction. He knew that if he would do it Godís way, all would work out okay. David saw being king in is future but it had been in his future for many years. David was wise enough to know that it would happen according to Godís schedule. David inquired what was next on the schedule, he didnít start his own.

Here is an interesting fact, notice David asked if it was time to go up to one of the cities. Why did he ask it this way? Why didnít he come out and ask if it was time to go to Jerusalem?

What I find interesting is God tells David to go up to Hebron and wait there. Instead of taking over and becoming the king of all Israel, God has him go to Hebron and he becomes the king over Judah.

2 Samuel 2:8-11 Meanwhile, Abner son of Ner, the commander of Saulís army, had taken Ish-Bosheth son of Saul and brought him over to Mahanaim. He made him king over Gilead, Ashuri and Jezreel, and also over Ephraim, Benjamin and all Israel. Ish-Bosheth son of Saul was forty years old when he became king over Israel, and he reigned two years. The house of Judah, however, followed David. The length of time David was king in Hebron over the house of Judah was seven years and six months.

If David would have marched up and proceeded to take over as king, there would have been all sorts of trouble in Israel. David follows Godís instructions and patiently waits until God removes all the obstacles that would prevent David from being king in the fashion that was good for the nation. Once David becomes king over all Israel, the nation becomes unified and a dominant power over the region. Had David forced his authority, Israel might not have seen the glorious days intended by God.

It is during these 7 years at Hebron that David made some decisions that he lived to regret.

2 Samuel 3:2-5 Sons were born to David in Hebron: His firstborn was Amnon the son of Ahinoam of Jezreel; his second, Kileab the son of Abigail the widow of Nabal of Carmel; the third, Absalom the son of Maacah daughter of Talmai king of Geshur; the fourth, Adonijah the son of Haggith; the fifth, Shephatiah the son of Abital; and the sixth, Ithream the son of Davidís wife Eglah. These were born to David in Hebron.

One is missing, Michal, Saulís daughter. David later goes back and gets her and reclaims her as his wife by force. What does this tell us? David didnít simply have six childrenÖhe had six children with six different wives. This polygamy was one of the dark spots in Davidís life that later came back to haunt him. If you chart out a genealogy of Davidís immediate family, the total size is huge.

Even though David was a very great king and did great things for God and Israel, David was also human. In fact, David suffered three major failures in his life each one breaking his heart in the end. I believe David died a broken man over these failures

First Failure: He became so involved in public pursuits that he lost his family.

He had too many wives and too many children. Can you imagine what he had to endure to keep everyone happy and content? A king or queen can produce prodicals and rebels just as easily as those without rank and wealth. He didnít nor was he able to give the proper parental guidance that they needed to in order to raise a healthy family. He had undisciplined children. The biggest problem he had was he refused to punish his kids, take the appropriate action to control his kids. He was a great warrior but was weak when it came to fighting the kids.

1 Kings 1:15-16 Now Adonijah, whose mother was Haggith, put himself forward and said, ďI will be king.Ē So he got chariots and horses£ ready, with fifty men to run ahead of him. (His father had never interfered with him by asking, ďWhy do you behave as you do?Ē

Second Failure: He indulged himself in extravagant extremes of passion.

This led to the mistake with Bathsheba. When he should have been out doing what a king did during the Spring, make war, he was home doing nothing when his lust got the best of him. This lust led to uncontrollable desires that caused him to sin and go to bed with Bathsheba. It also caused him to lie to the people, lie to God and eventually led him to kill Bathshebaís husband and other innocent men while trying to cover his sin up. All this led to weaken his authority as king with his commanders and men.

Third Failure: He became a victim of his own self-sufficiency and pride.

In simple terms, David began to believe in his own track record. He believed the headlines about him in the newspapers. David told Joab to go out and number the people, take a census. When Joab asked why, David basically said, ďdonít question me, just do itĒ. So he did and this action angered God so much that 70,000 people died in a judgment from God.

What wrong did David do by taking a census? What harm was there in knowing how many people Israel had? What was the real issue? What is the danger in keeping track of attendance in church? What do numbers tell usÖtell others? What do we want others to think?

David paid a terrible price for his mistakes while he lived in Hebron. These mistakes dogged him all his life. There are three important lessons you and I can learn at Davidís expense. If you are doing any of these now, please stop. They will totally destroy all of you.

1) Prosperity and ease are perilous times, not merely blessings. There is so much worth in times of trial. In fact, trials are better for you than most calm periods in life.

Someone explain to me what they early adult years are like; young and just married, young babies at home; starting new in your jobs. Describe what mid-life crisis is? Have you gone through it?

2) Gross sin is a culmination of a process, not a sudden act. Early in Davidís life he was gathering his fortune plus a number of wives. But when is enough, enough? He had so many wives but yet that many was not enough for him. Gross sin is not something that happens all at once, it is a process.

3) Confession and repentance help heal a wound, but they never erase all the scars. There are some of us that when we sin we say to ourselves, ďI can do this now and then confess and repent and God will forgive meĒ. And thatís true. But we also must remember that we develop scars that donít go away. To often the scars we have our left on our children and others we deeply hurt with our sinful mistakes.