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Scripture: Ephesians 6:1-4
Track 6 of 7 in the A Transforming Church . . . Produces Transforming Families series
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Chuck Sackett Speaker: Chuck Sackett
Dr. G. Charles Sackett is minister of Madison Park Christian Church.

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Changing the Trends

An all-female law firm in Chicago is turning heads in the Windy City with a new billboard and a blunt message: "Life is Short. Get a Divorce." Reaction from those who work in and around Chicago's divorce courts has been less than enthusiastic. "It's grotesque," said John Ducanto, past president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. "It's totally undignified and offensive." "It trivialized divorce and I think it's absolutely disgusting," Rick Tivers, a clinical social worker at the Center for Divorce Recovery in Chicago, told ABC News. (Cited from ABCNews.com)

When I was in the 5th grade Mr. and Mrs. Post (members of a local congregation in my home town) remained separated the rest of their lives, but refused to divorce. You just didn't do those things. That's probably the other extreme. Sometimes there seems to be no other recourse. But has it gotten too easy? Too common place? Too "expected?"

One listener from last Sunday told me I got at least one thing correct. He agreed that Gail and I were "na´ve" about divorce. After all, unless both parties agree to that philosophy there is sometimes nothing you can do. True! But could we not all agree to a moratorium . . . at least until all legitimate options are considered?

We have so many resources. Our elders are willing (desirous) to be involved. They want to try to help. We have dozens of resources in our library. There are other married couples willing to mentor you. We have a licensed marriage and family counselor on staff. We can refer you to other counselors. We can pray.

George Barna reports that as many Christian couples end up divorced as non-Christian couples. I don't know if they were Christians when they married. I don't know if that matters. But I keep hoping that those who are Christians when they marry make better choices that those who don't. Then I keep hoping that since become Christians, people try harder.

I don't know if Barna's study takes into account the change in values involved in conversion. Could it be that when one partner becomes a believer in puts so much strain on the marriage that it destroys the marrage? I don't know. I just want an excuse. I want to believe being a Christian matters.

Will you join me in changing the statistics? Will you commit yourself, with your spouse, to do everything in your power, and everything in the power of the church, to stay together in a committed, fulfilling relationship?