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Blame Game: It's Not My Fault
Scripture: Proverbs 5:21-23
Track 9 of 13 in the American Idols series
Running time: 36 minutes, 56 seconds.

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Chuck Sackett Speaker: Chuck Sackett
Dr. G. Charles Sackett is minister of Madison Park Christian Church.

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The Blame Game / Respecting Real Victims

RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network) reports the following statistics: Every two and a half minutes, someone is sexually assaulted; One in six American women are victims of sexual assault, and one in 33 men; In 2004-2005, there were an average annual 200,780 victims of rape, attempted rape or sexual assault; About 44% of rape victims are under age 18, and 80% are under age 30.

Numbers of victims of emotional, physical and verbal abuse are much harder to calculate. Perceptions of what constitutes these abuses differ. Victims are not likely to report these abuses. Yet no thinking person believes the numbers are small. And no caring individual believes the pain isn't real.

It's the presence of such real pain that allows the Blame Game to exist. And those with deep hurt are the ones who suffer even more than from abuse. They are treated with disregard or worse, disrespect.

Unfortunately, our world is full of those willing to fake victimization, making it harder for those with real issues. For example, we see people in our office every week unwilling to work (or who lie about working), yet willingly taking the food needed by those who really are unable to work.

A number of dangers confront us. One is becoming cynical and thus responding inappropriately to all who claim pain. A second is becoming insensitive to those who genuinely have been abused and not meeting their needs. Third, we allow ourselves to be sucked into the cycle and let our abuse destroy our lives. We never move past our abuse. Fourth, we fail to accept responsibility for our lives . . . either letting the abuse turn us into trapped victims or refusing to acknowledge our ability to respond appropriately.

The Blame Game, as presented by out culture, causes us to turn the responsibility for our lives over to someone else. Culture elevates abusing the abuse--it becomes our excuse for failure instead of our opportunity for growth. In other words, those who have been legitimately victimized are encouraged to use that as an excuse for now making poor decisions. Or, we refuse to take responsibilty for our own poor decisions, pushing it off on someone else.

Disciples of Jesus, those who want to follow Him, are called by Him to move forward. Jesus brought healing to lives, but then said, "Go and sin no more." In other words, take responsibility from this point forward. That's our challenge. We let God bring healing and we take responsibility for our decisions.