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Single Again
Scripture: 1 Corinthians 7:1-40
Track 2 of 7 in the A Transforming Church . . . Produces Transforming Families series
Running time: 30 minutes, 41 seconds.

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Chuck Sackett Speaker: Chuck Sackett
Dr. G. Charles Sackett is minister of Madison Park Christian Church.

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Single and Serving

Nearly thirty-seven years ago Gail and I stood at an altar and took our vows: "...'til death do us part..." We promised each other that divorce was out of the question. We both come from families with strong marital histories. My maternal grandparents were married 69 years, my parents 47. Her grandparents and parents had similar track records.

So, "loss" was rare to us. Then it happened . . . Gail's mom died of cancer in the fall of 1979. We felt out own pain, but watched first hand the deep pain her father experienced as he became "single again." Then, in 1985, both my parents died and in 1986, her father died. Grief wa real . . . and it hurt.

Then, when our daughter went through a divorce a few years ago, I wasn't sure I could stand the pain. Watching her hurt was almost more than I could bear. Since then, I've watched the varying levels of pain and frustration that occur when she and Donny try to decide where my grandson will spend his time. Loss is real . . . and it hurts.

In 2000 I was told I had cancer. Suddenly the prospect of leaving Gail to live alone was very real (not that death can't occur suddenly, without warning, at any age). I didn't like that idea at all. I didn't want her to have to deal with life without me (I have no doubt she'd be able to do so).

Being "single again" is not an uncommon situation. It happens to us all (for at least a little while) when our spouse dies. It happens to many when there is a divorce or separation. It can even happen on a different level when someone is away for an extended work or military assignment.

As a church, we have to surround those who are experiencing this "single again" state. We have to love and encourage and challenge and help. We have to be there. We have to support. We have to provide the extra hands . . . the needed advice . . . the listening ear . . . the mechanic's wrench.

The church is the church when everyone experiences someone caring for them. We can do that as individuals as we see needs arise. We can show compassion as bridge communities and discipleship classes. Our new G.A.P. ministry will be doing so "officially" as an extension of our men's ministries.

God is most visible to the world when we are serving one another.